tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6510189936790160175.post3135444990596299708..comments2021-11-12T00:39:32.400-08:00Comments on Our roller coaster ride through infertility and more: I was "That Woman"Nikkihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15469466620967385694noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6510189936790160175.post-22738985650762832132008-08-25T06:20:00.000-07:002008-08-25T06:20:00.000-07:00you're not alone i just asked my co worker that th...you're not alone i just asked my co worker that the other day she said she was finding out at the end of the week. fortunately she didn't mind she was asking me what i thought she was having i thought it was a girl and of course it ended up being a boy. but she had no hard feelings.<BR/>i think i can be a little insensitive also mainly out of envy that someone has want i want so desperately. i've recently caught myself saying wow you're gonna have a big baby and i'm thinking she probably thinks i'm calling her fat!!!<BR/>and i think she was being smart with you she remembered u asked that lolheavenlytinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12091126721203761243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6510189936790160175.post-2182855205612829822008-08-18T08:07:00.000-07:002008-08-18T08:07:00.000-07:00You make a great point. I need to join the club! ...You make a great point. I need to join the club! I've made my share of innocent offensive comments. We all have things that we are sensitive about. The truth is, when you are getting to know someone, you just don't know what those things are. Is this our lesson in tolerance for the day or what?? You did the right thing by circling back, and THAT'S what counts. More importantly, that's our lesson in humility for the day.The Vincentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02655510450124094215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6510189936790160175.post-43363936830634917472008-08-18T06:05:00.000-07:002008-08-18T06:05:00.000-07:00I think we are all guilty of being insensitive to ...I think we are all guilty of being insensitive to someone about more than just IF. You're not alone!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375277770535046144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6510189936790160175.post-64250224374206219322008-08-17T21:18:00.000-07:002008-08-17T21:18:00.000-07:00Yeah - a few months back I posted of a somewhat si...Yeah - a few months back I posted of a somewhat similar experience. I inadvertently triggered a flood of tears from a coworker who I had no clue was struggling to live child-free. Yeah - it was bad and I felt like shit. I think that just because we're infertiles it doesn't make us unable to slip and make missteps. The difference is that we don't make as many, when we do it's on accident, and then we can make amends and try to rectify the situations instead of just letting it slide the way that so many have done with us.JW Moxiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16865232770753428076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6510189936790160175.post-45002289975970139272008-08-17T14:57:00.000-07:002008-08-17T14:57:00.000-07:00Well at least you recognized, came clean, and apol...Well at least you recognized, came clean, and apologized. I know you didn't mean it just like those closest to us don't mean it when they say these things to us. <BR/><BR/>By posting this you made me realize that I owe a very dear friend an apology. She TTC for several years and has decided to adopt. She told me this several months ago and back then- I was kind of ignorant on the subject so I actually said 'maybe now you will get pregnant just like they say'. She just chuckled and changed the subject. I know now that it was a stupid comment and I must have hurt her. I will give her a call this week and say I'm sorry...so thanks for sharing this.Daryahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11335508028014938995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6510189936790160175.post-32234199941986149392008-08-17T14:43:00.000-07:002008-08-17T14:43:00.000-07:00I'm guilty, of many "that woman" things actually, ...I'm guilty, of many "that woman" things actually, I know what its like to have a preference of gender but to want a healthy baby, and I know what its like to have it turn into just wanting a healthy baby, however I do think it can be quite normal to ask that question when your just trying not to stick out like a sore IF thumb, I was at my family reunion this weekend in the only way I could feel like I was happy for my cousins daughter who I pregnant and due 1 mo before I was supposed to be due, was to ask her the typical question, Its to sensitive and kind of creepy for me to go around asking "so, how did you get pregnant?", I can just imagine the looks from the family, so I just asked her "Any feelings on what your having?" As I smiled through my gritted teeth trying not to cry for my self.Birdeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12587791461051428059noreply@blogger.com