Sunday, November 16, 2008

Birds of a feather flock together

It’s so nice to meet a set of people that get it!

Shelby invited DH and me to have lunch with her sisterhood today. These are women Shelby met through her support group meetings and they decided to take their kinship beyond just the support group.

Of late, I have become extremely socially inadequate and deficient. I find myself avoiding meeting any new people, because I dread the “What about you? Are you married, do you have children?” part of the conversations.

When I told Shelby I was ready to join them, I confess that I was a trifle hesitant. But I decided to go anyway.

I am so glad DH and I went! These ladies all get it. They were all in my shoes! In fact, one of them introduced herself, saying “I’m so and so, and I’m extremely fertile.” I laughed and responded, “Try beating me at being fertile!”

There were laughs, jokes, stories shared and I felt such a comfortable camaraderie with all these ladies. I guess you know you had fun if you get home at 6 PM from lunch!

I’ve always hesitated going to any kind of support group. I felt it would be awkward talking about my IF to people I didn’t know. But if these are the kind of friendships that can be formed, I’m missing out on so much! Moreover, it’s easier to talk about IF to strangers that get it, than to try and explain to friends and family that don’t!

The great part was that a few of the DHs were there too, and it was great to hear their perspective to things too. It’s a rare moment when you find 3 men asking each other “How do you do with the shots?” and then hear them describe to each other how they do the shots. Very cute.

We are all now wearing the “Wear to make aware” pomegranate colored thread on our right hands. This is the common thread of infertility. I feel sort of empowered! ☺

Thanks Shelby for organizing this! Everyone else – it was so nice to meet you all!!


April said...

That's awesome!! I definitely wish that I had a group like this locally!!! It does feel so much better to talk with ladies (and gents) who just get it and don't have any judgement in their voices or tone....

Nichole said...

OMGosh! This sounds absolutely amazing! I SO wish I could find something like that where I live. I am so glad you guys decided to go! I can't wait to hear more stories about this new group!

nancy said...

That's awesome :)

And I got your message about meeting up. I'll email you. I will totally have time to meet you on the Jan 1st, but I also want you to know I'll be like 37 weeks pregnant, so if this may be hard for you, I also understand. Don't just say "yes" because you feel you have to. I've had my turn with ttc#1 and I will totally get it. And you are in a whole different ballgame than myself, so please, please, please, just be honest with how you feel, k? :)

Linda said...

I'm so glad that you have found a local support group. I wish there was one like that around here. God only knows I need all the support I can get. Some days are less worse than others for me, so it would be nice to have a life-line like that.

Shelby said...

I'm sorry I took so long to respond, but I am absolutely ecstatic that you joined us and even liked it! Everyone loved you and I'm so grateful I've gotten a chance to welcome you into such a supportive group. I've been so lucky and have felt so supported. I want everyone to get a chance to feel this, so much so that one day, when I'm ready, I would love to volunteer for Open Path (Northern Cal) or Resolve. Glad you enjoyed yourself!